I’m still emotionally compromised as I write this… I still can’t believe the train wreck they caused to dair last night. I feel like I was given two adorable puppies, like the kind you can still fit in the palm of one hand, that were handed to me, and I was given their love, and I grew an unbreakable bond with them, and for the last year we spent time together. Then the person who handed them to me, broke into my house, tied me up, glued my eyes open and brutally murdered them in front of my eyes and then looked at me and said “It seems like it was all for nothing huh?” and walked away to go hide in Hollywood where I can’t reach them…
Okay… I know that seemed harsh… but that is what it feels like… they took this amazing ship, this amazing couple, turned them into best friends. BEST FRIENDS and then turn them into lovers, and then as soon as they were together, they said “FUCK YOU!”
They gave us parallels to their earlier relationship, they gave us parallels to their previous relationships with other people. They gave us heartfelt lines like “you’ll have me” and “always” and then they said “Yeah, it was really all just a prop for an abusive relationship. You see we needed to contrast a loving relationship with one that was emotionally damaging so she could see that she doesn’t actually want to be happy! That was the point! Blair doesn’t need happiness when you have a great love! See? Do you see?”
I seriously want to throw up… I want to quit this show so badly… I really do… I have never wanted to give up on a show so much… but I wont… I’ll serve eleven more hours of time… I’ll do it. I’ll endure and maybe… maybe all I can hope for is that when it’s all over that I still like at least some of the characters…
I honestly can’t write about anything else that happened in the finale yet… and I do have an opinion and lots to say on that stuff, but this murder of dair is still too fresh and too close to home… I may need a few more days.
I literally just hit the stop button on tonight’s episode of Gossip Girl (It Girl, Interrupted)and while I need to write this, I apologize in advance because I’m still heated!
Serena van der Woodsen is possibly (and when I say possibly I mean she is) the most annoying character on my TV! She is wishy-washy, a hypocrite and entirely too self righteous for someone with her track record! I would love to go into a case by case break down but that would require scenes from over 100 episodes since she can’t go more than two scenes without at least one of those traits popping up.
Before we delve into tonight’s episode and how I wish the “A” team from PLL would take out Serena like they did Allison, lets back track to maybe the biggest hypocritical thing Serena has ever done, by becoming Gossip Girl. Did her lack of brain cells cause her to forget that three months ago she wanted to “take Gossip Girl down” for ruining her life and those around her, only to find herself in the position to do just that, and instead decide to the opposite.
Then with tonight’s episode she decides: “Oh I don’t want to be on Gossip Girl anymore!” “Oh I want someone else to be the new It Girl!” “Oh I think I’ll set my cousin up and force her into an It Girl title she doesn’t want because I don’t want it anymore!” Only to get all of that and then realize “Omg! this mean’s I’ll be irrelevant and I didn’t want that when I graduated and I just remembered I don’t actually want that now!”
I’m like seriously? Please you psycho beeyatch can you please pull a Marissa Cooper and get killed off the show. I would not mind one bit the writers recycling that storyline. In fact I’m crossing my fingers that it happens in the finale that is apparently Serena-centric!
I haven’t even mentioned her getting pissed at Lola for “using her”, when she was using Lola the entire episode! Can someone please slap this girl with a reality check!
Serena van der Woodsen, the character you hate, and hate that you even have to exert the energy to hate!
Look up Serena van der Woodsen in the dictionary:
hypocrisy: noun ( pl. -sies) the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behavior does not conform.
(Even my Serenate love is no where near as large as my dislike of Serena… Nate can find someone else to be happy with! Beside I only really ship them because of SBC’s The Date, and TV Serena is no where near as likeable as the Serena from a fanfic!)
She just finished watching The Princess Dowry and she actually said “eww” and then tried to say “its not going to happen” and when I was like “it IS happening, its on your screen right now” and she was like “Its over before it even started” and I’m like “wth one month from now its going to be HAPPENING THEN TOO” seriously I knew my mother was fighting joining the dair fandom but REALLY???
Its like the crazy people who infest our Dair tag have taken over my own mothers mind. The worst is she’s just like them, she refuses to have an actual conversation about it because she is fighting realizing that she’s wrong. I’m almost scared to go to sleep… but seriously if my own mother supports Chuck I fear for what she’ll consider acceptable behavior in any guy I ever start dating. I need someone who isn’t going to approve of anything Chuck-Like.
I’m going to force her to discuss this with me later this week. I’m going to print out a time line and parallel references and quotes from the show, from the writers, from the producers, anything and everything to get to her snap out of it. She loves Seth and Summer, she needs to realize this is the Seth and Summer of the UES!
OH MY GOD MY MOTHER IS A CHAIR SHIPPER AND I FEAR FOR MY LIFE.
Both my sister and I ship Dair. So thankfully we didn’t get that gene!
I just finished the latest episode of Gossip Girl, The Princess Dowry and I am so excited about what I saw that I have to get out my thoughts immediately! I haven’t even ventured into the Dair tag yet. That’s my next stop.
This entry is going to be only about Dan and Blair, I will probably write out my thoughts on the episode itself later because boy did shit hit the fan tonight. All the stories are going to come back with a fresh new direction.
Okay so Dan and Blair, first let me just say that I love how it feels like we’re enjoying the beginning of a brand new show. It’s like they are really taking their quote to heart “beginning now, the rest is just the prologue, it all starts here.” It feels like this is the start of the show again, and it’s fresh and new.
I loved that the preview for when the show comes back was basically only about Dan and Blair. I loved it! Watching the two of them, it was like seeing Seth and Summer, and I just know its going to be awesome.
I feel like my words are coming out all over the place, but I’m just so excited about everything. That last scene! It was like the season three finale, only it was so them. I just love how Dan and Blair are having so many parallels to their opposing ship, only its like these newer versions are almost ten times better.
I loved how she instantly forgave him in the beginning when she finds out he sent that video. The thing we were worried would be the end of them, was something she just brushed off. I am just beyond excited to begin watching their relationship.
The ache in my chest watching the Dair kiss from Cross Rhodes on repeat about 20 times just now has left me with tears in my eyes. Every time I see him go to kiss her back, the ache in the center of my chest gets stronger. It’s like he’s breathing her in, like he was a drowning man who finally kicked his way back up to the surface and her kiss is the oxygen he needs to live. That is how intense that kiss is for me and my fragile shipper heart.
I, as many of you may know haven’t solely shipped Dan and Blair since season one episode four, though I like to brag that my friend shipped it and I was made very much aware that others did as well. I personally fell into a magical love affair with the Dan and Blair last January when the show returned for the second part of its fourth season.
They had an amazingly witty dry humor about them that was made even more amazing by the fact that they actually cared about each other and were okay with showing that. Dan once again helping Blair when it came to the relationship with her mother, (a theme I feel has stayed consistent on a show with a lot of inconsistencies.) Blair helping him to finally see the light when it came to Serena and how he’d always come second to whatever drama or guy or most times both, were happening in the moment.
I adored the growth and the slow build up to their denial of any potential feelings and then the show did the unthinkable and it went on a six week hiatus, leaving me at the height of “what happens next” when it came to this new love story they’d dropped in my lap.
Six weeks of fanfictions and fanvids and making friends with fellow shippers who dared to dair. It was almost impossible for me not to become one hundred percent committed to their love story. The parallels to great movies, the assurance from producers that the story of Dan and Blair was far from over and in fact five years in the making, the natural chemistry between Penn and Leighton. It all contributed to me realizing that they are each other soulmates.
These two people from two different worlds, with so much different about them in personality and background who have the most organic relationship that is built on this common interest in film, and art. These two people who basically couldn’t stand each other because they thought they were two different realizing they are exactly what the other has been looking for. They build each other up in a way neither of their former relationships ever truly could.
They see each others dark sides and at the same time recognize and build up the light sides. Dan and Blair is the kind of discovery love story many of us long to experience. There was no dropping of it in our laps unexpectedly it was build upon a strong foundation to give it real staying power.
I am more confident that I’ve ever been with any of my ships that this, Dan and Blair together in a strong and lasting relationship is how the show is going to end. There will be ups, there will be downs but they will be endgame.
Why me no longer shipping chair has not a single thing to do with Dan and Blair:
I was once a Chuck and Blair supporter (and when I ship, I ship hard), the second after I saw Victor/Victrola I was all about them together. I forgave Chuck for the things he said to her after Nate and her broke up. I forgave him for leaving her to fly off to Europe on her own after the wedding where he said some amazing words to win her back. I forgave him pushing her away when she finally told him she loved him.
I forgave it all and more and I was so happy when we got to the first half of season three. They were in a monogamous, supportive and mostly trusting relationship for twelve episodes. Then Chuck’s mom came into the picture and things got shaky but I was still on board for four more episodes and then the Inglorious Basstards episode happened and I spent that next five episodes not sure where I stood on chair but knowing I just wanted Blair to be happy. So there I am I’m all pumped up and excited about them reconciling in the season finale only for it to all go to hell.
I started season four feeling heartbroken at the loss of my ship, I couldn’t watch the last scene of Double Identity without bawling my eyes out. I’m talking full on sob-fest “I can’t breathe through my nose where in the world are the tissues” crying, and then I made myself watch it at least 20 (if not more) times, and while I didn’t know it then, I can honestly say that that was the end of chair for me. I cried it out of my system. They had had their chance but after that I was rooting for Blair and true happiness.
I didn’t immediately start shipping her with anyone, I just didn’t ship her with Chuck. I watched the first half of season four with an mostly impartial eye, and so I was happy when she began to break out of that dark place she’s fallen into towards the mid-season finale.
I was again getting what I’ve wanted all along since way back when I purchased the first book in 2002, Blair/Happiness. I do believe she was happy for that period of time while her and Chuck’s relationship worked. Its been the afterward that’s the problem for me, the treating her like property, the sleeping with someone who was bound to hurt her, the trying to ruin her education, and then just the over all number of women who he was so willing to have “forever” with because he wasn’t with her at the moment.
I just can’t do them together anymore. I tried. I’m a really emotionally involved shipper, and C/B broke my heart when it ended for me, but I just can’t go back there again. To quote Blair herself,
“I loved Chuck for so long and he ended up treating me like something he owned rather than something he earned. It destroyed me. I thought I’d never get over it. But I finally found a way out of the darkness and you can too.”
Now if only the writers would remember the many times Blair has remembered the darkness Chuck brings into her life, honestly that they bring to each other. They BOTH should have someone who brings light into their lives. They need the balance, a fresh path. If they were meant to be together, they wouldn’t end every time they tried.
(Look out for my entry on why I love Dan and Blair together and how Chuck wasn’t even a factor.)
I’ve seen so many people post about not understanding how the writers could possibly write Blair’s character to be as weak and easily manipulated as she has been this season, and while I do question if the writers actually watch their own show and remember what they’ve had characters say and do before. I wonder if Blair is being exactly how they want her to be.
The labels they stuck on their characters in Season 2 during the finale episode have managed to stick with most of them today, Dan being the ultimate insider wrote a book titled Inside. Nate has proved his man-whore-ish ways countless times, though I do hope he breaks free of that label. Serena is mostly irrelevant, if she disappeared the show wouldn’t suffer much in my opinion, Chuck will always be a coward, just the way in last nights episode he “let/encouraged” Louis to put those pictures in the slide show, ugh.
The point here is that Blair was given the label weakling, and I honestly hope that while they are doing horrible things to her character in the process, that the end goal is to show her that she needs to surround herself with people who bring out her strength. Chuck has never consistently been that person.
Dan Humphrey while being the last thing she ever saw coming is the one who gives her strength, the strength to find out the paternity of her child, the strength to go a party and fake it in front of her friends and family, the strength to remember how powerful she truly is. And that is just THIS season, he was the first one to help her see that love was worth the risk, and was there for her at NYU in different way even when he didn’t particularly want to be, was there for her when he’d only just met her four episodes into the show. Dan has always been the one to make her stronger.
I can’t wait to see her realize this, and understand that he is who she is meant to be with, he’s strong enough for himself and for her. He has the strength to love her and keep it to himself, just imagine the strength he’d give her once she know’s how unconditional his love is.
Blair being with Dan Humphrey is going to show her breaking free of the label she was given and ignoring the labels she may have put on him in the past. I can’t wait! Your thoughts?
I just read someone say
First, I don’t think Blair ever hated Dan. Did she view him as below her? Yes. Did she think he wasn’t god enough for Serena? Yes. Did she think his judgmental ways and higher than thou attitude were annoying? Yes.
Blair didn’t like that he acted like he was better because he wasn’t from the Upper East Side, he turned his nose down at her and that wasn’t something she’d had to deal with previously, she was always the one looking down at everyone else.
As far as the comment that she’s perfect… I kind of have to ask what character they are watching. Is Leighton amazing in her acting of her fictional character? Yes! Does Blair make it easy to love her in spite of some of the choices she makes? Yes. But perfect… far from, she’s insecure, she’s easily jealous, and a little bit rash, and we love her for it, but Blair Waldorf is not perfect, and if she were she’s be very one dimensional and I think we’d feel cheated.
As far as the Dair relationship, I never once felt like it was thrown at us unsuspecting. We watched Dan and Blair come together to scheme may times during the first three seasons and during season four they came together again and this time realized that they has so much in common.
The growing and the building of Dan and Blair’s friendship has been happening in front of us for years, first as unhappy accomplices, to more willing partnerships where schemes were concerned. Its been there all along, and Dan and Blair’s friendship didn’t make Blair suddenly any less who she is. In fact it allowed her a level of deep conversation about the arts, and history, and movies that was lacking in all of her other friendships.
If Blair were to get together in a romantic relationship with Dan, it wouldn’t change her personality just like their friendship didn’t, all it would do is make her happy.
I’m about to quote words of mine from my other tumblr, but I felt they needed to be represented here as my official opinion!
MAY SHE FOLLOW IN THEIR FOOTSTEPS
On Gossip Girl they show us Rufus/Lily who are forced to wait 20 years to be together, kept apart initially because they are from different worlds. Then they show us Cyrus/Eleanor, Blair’s mother with a man who doesn’t “fit” the usual UES standards.
I mean why put such an emphasis on these woman from Blair’s world ending up happy with men who aren’t… Unless its so that these two woman, Blair’s mother and Lily who Blair is actually so much like, and who she trusts, will be able to help her see that she shouldn’t have to wait to have her happily ever after. That she needs to forget what people say or think and just be happy now.
It might be too optimist to hope that this was the plan all along. I do believe that the writers did love the initial chemistry that came with Chuck/Blair. I loved the chemistry when it first started.
I do like to believe that just like people grow and change that writers can too and that they now see that what was once good for Blair, is no longer whats best for her. I’m sure once upon a time Lily thought Mr. van der Woodsen was the right choice, and Eleanor felt that way for Mr. Waldorf.
Now a new chemistry has emerged and its better than what came before. As one Gossip Girl fan once said. Serena brings out bitch Blair. Chuck brings out insecure Blair. But Dan brings out Blair. I think that is such an accurate break down, because I feel like we’ve never seen Blair more able to be herself than with Dan.
To be 100% honest I have no idea what to expect from this book. For me its like an endless stream of questions and I have no idea which questions are the right ones. I am just dying to see how it comes to play out during the season.
What really stood out to me was the words Gossip Girl says as Vanessa gives Dan’s book to the publisher:
“In order to full transform we might need to free ourselves of everything we’ve been holding on to, to send us on our new path, the right one.”
For me it actually says more about Blair, and is actually a bit of a foreshadow of what is to come for Dan and Blair.
I am hoping that Dan has become so much a part of their lives that just like anything any of them does, this wont keep him on the outside for long. Like he said, its his best friends and his family. If they cant forgive whatever is so unforgivable in the book, they are throwing stones in a glass house.
