I’ve said before, like the majority of Gossip Girl fans I started out shipping Chuck and Blair. I fell in love with their chemistry in episode seven of the first season, and really connected with the whole “Chuck actually likes someone for the first time and doesn’t know how to handle it” situation. I was happily along for the ride as they worked to overcome the obstacles that they put in their own way throughout season two. I loved when they came together during the season two finale, and was very happy with how they were as a committed couple during the beginning of season three.

I dont think its fair to list all of the negative things that happened over the course of the entire show and then call the period of time when they were happy and faithful and loyal to one another as “boring” it was a great relationship, and they did love one another. It just became clear that Chuck didn’t love her as much as she loved him in the long run.

I became aware of Dair shippers way back during the first season, but didn’t think much more on the topic. When the Dan and Blair friendship began I immediately feel in love with their new dynamic and the chemistry between them. It didn’t take more than one episode (after the winter hiatus) to convince me that I loved whatever it was that was growing between the two.

In the episode arc leading up to the first kiss I became more and more attached to the couple. Yet it wasn’t until the spring hiatus that I began to look back over the many things that had taken place on the show, and realized just how much I’d stopped even considering Chuck as an actual opinion for Blair.

Dan has become the only possible option for Blair, and Blair the only possible option for Dan. Neither of them deserves to be in a relationship with people who take them for granted and who don’t love them as much as they love them.